I should say, F, that your experience isn't unique. All too often what one surgeon sees as a relatively simple and straightforward op, another will baulk at. I think you did the right thing, though; what they were going to do was far removed from what they said they were going to do.
I think that is a good summary of what happened.
The moments when I laid there, wondering what to do were the worst. It was probably one minute, but it felt like hours.
You think, 'Am I going mad?' ...... 'Am I misunderstanding?' .......'Am I being a coward?' ...... 'Am I even allowed to walk away?'
.... 'How will I ever gt another chance at this, is it ten years wasted?'
Then there was the BIG concern, .... ''After all the hassle I've put my Mrs through, what is she going to say?''
