What people seem to percieve as a major downfall of standards is often just this generation acting as they do and the older generations wrongly categorizing this behaviour as something to be frightened of and something that needs to be stopped.
While there might be something in that, it's not the entire picture. Detailed research by social scientists over the past 50 years reveals some disturbing trends.
For instance, the once stable relationship of marriage has largely given way to single parenting, co-habiting and increasingly repetitious divorce strategies. Over the past 50 years, the one in eight births in England and Wales that were to mothers born outside the UK rose to one in five. In Great Britain in 2007 the proportion of people living alone (12 per cent) was double that of 1971, in 2005 there were just under 284,000 marriages in the UK, around 27,000 fewer than in 2004, and 197,000 fewer than in 1972, when the number of marriages peaked at 480,000.
Over the last 20 years, the proportion of unmarried men and women aged under 60 cohabiting in Great Britain rose from 11 per cent of men and 13 per cent of women to 24 per cent and 25 per cent respectively, while one in ten men and one in four women forming a civil partnership in the UK in 2006 had been in a previous legal partnership, in nearly all cases a marriage. The average age of a criminal in the UK is 19, so it's possible to infer a link between a destabilising society in marriage terms and an increase in crime and criminality. Perhaps the most worrying statistic, however, is that at March 2006 there were 32,100 children on child protection registers in the UK.
Nearly half of all cases were due to neglect. So society is changing in some very basic and objectively measurable ways, and it's not simply "the older generations wrongly categorizing this behaviour as something to be frightened of and something that needs to be stopped."
Your laudable aim of stopping
people "milking" the benefit system (by) making them feel valuable and worthwhile members of society, who therefore would not want to take money from the pockets of their fellow citizens and who will then strive to go out and work for the greater good
fails to mention how this would work in practice, other than by increasing the minimum wage. However, there is also substantial evidence that many people set out to deliberately abuse the system to obtain tangible benefits they could never otherwise hope to get, even with a marked increase in the minimum wage.